20 Years & a Birthday

30 Apr

Exactly twenty years ago – April 30, 1989, I met the love of my life.

Well, “met” isn’t totally accurate.

On the evening of the 29th, I was working as an usher at the Nickelodeon at BU, and that cute redhead from Russian class who also worked as a cashier was at the theater with her friend, watching the 1989 movie about the Profumo Affair, “Scandal”. We got comp tickets at any Loews Theater in Boston.

We had been in the same Russian class a few times, where I was the obnoxious guy who’d leave Ms. Katz’s class early on Wednesdays to play in a band during Free Speech hour at Marsh Plaza. She had gotten a job at the Nickelodeon, usually working the concession stand, which I wouldn’t do because of my innate hatred of even the most basic, computer-assisted mathematics. We had talked and flirted before, but hadn’t really gotten to know each other beyond that.

Exactly 20 years ago today, I gave her a silly birthday card that involved a Disney character “slipping a Mickey” to another. She thought it was hilarious, and we met up after the show. I remember there was this other guy who was interested in her, and the three of us went back to her single on Bay State Road, and he had bought her some sort of elaborate birthday present and generally refused to leave. As did I. He ultimately took off.

We kissed. It was magical. We still do, and it still is.

We were up all night, as college students are wont to do, and walked in the warm early morning light to grab the Sunday New York Times. That band I was in during Free Speech Hour? We got a mention in the New York Times the next morning. I remember we walked over to Campus Convenience in Warren Towers to get the paper. That Free Speech Hour was held in front of Marsh Chapel at BU, and it’s the church where we were married, and where both of our kids were Christened. Even we agnostics hedge our bets with the big guys once in a while.

The rest, as they say, is history. Every day we laugh, we hug, we kiss, we tell each other how much we love each other. She makes me wonderfully happy, has given us two beautiful children whom we adore, and I am beyond lucky that we share our life and love together.

That gorgeous redhead was born in Lockport and moved around a lot, spending at least a few years in Orchard Park along the way. When we lived in Boston, we’d visit WNY about once per year, and grew to love it, eventually finding a way to move here.

Thinking back over 20 years at everything we’ve shared and accomplished together is pretty incredible, and I knew she was the one from day one. The way she laughed at my jokes and liked going for aimless walks along Newbury Street to downtown, or taking spur-of-the-moment rides throughout New England, with no real destination. The fact that she loves me unconditionally.

We’ve had so many wonderful times, and have many more in the pipeline. In the day to day rush of getting ready, getting the kids dressed, potty-trained, off to school, fed, etc., it’s easy to forget why we’re even in that situation in the first place, or how we got there.

But it’s just as easy to take a moment and remember. It’s easy to look back over 20 years of incredible ups, and devastating downs, and feel so fortunate to love and be loved by a woman so beautiful, and so caring. It’s easy to take a second to reflect on it all, and realize that time flies when you’re having the time of your life.

Happy Birthday to my beautiful, wonderful, patient, caring, and loving wife.

18 Responses to “20 Years & a Birthday”

  1. Mike Miller April 30, 2009 at 5:44 am #

    This was really beautiful, Alan. You are a lucky man. Your wife is a fantastic! Happy Birthday to her!

  2. Haterade April 30, 2009 at 6:53 am #

    I need a tissue …..

  3. Terry April 30, 2009 at 7:35 am #

    ????? ?????o!

  4. Terry April 30, 2009 at 7:38 am #

    skip that previous comment of mine which didn’t come out the manner in which it was typed……god forbid your bloody website should accomodate Cyrillic…..

  5. jen April 30, 2009 at 8:22 am #

    Awwwwwww, congratulations.

  6. Tata April 30, 2009 at 8:26 am #

    Sweeet! Many happy returns!

  7. Mike Walsh April 30, 2009 at 8:43 am #

    Take time out to smell the roses…here’s to many more happy birthdays….

  8. Russell April 30, 2009 at 8:46 am #

    Congratulations on the anniversary. That works out really well, having coincide with he birthday, of course, unless you forget both. Then that’d be VERY bad.

  9. RaChaCha April 30, 2009 at 9:40 am #

    Redheads are irresistible — I know, as I have to get the occasional restraining order 😉

    This is a great story. Congratulations, and may the next 20 years be just as magical!

  10. DJC April 30, 2009 at 9:43 am #

    Bravo. Very nice.

  11. shim April 30, 2009 at 9:52 am #

    Touching….nice to comment on a non controversial topic! The description in the last line would apply to my wife as well. Best to her! Let’s argue again tomorrow… 🙂

  12. shim April 30, 2009 at 9:54 am #

    Just to clarify…by best to “her” I meant best to your wife on her birthday!

  13. The Humanist April 30, 2009 at 10:32 am #

    Congratulations to you both Pundit….we’re all fortunate that your paths merged and led you here. Cherish her, as I’m sure she does you.

  14. Dianne April 30, 2009 at 12:05 pm #

    Very nice. Thank you. It’s my birthday today, too! And Willie Nelson.

  15. Ward April 30, 2009 at 12:54 pm #

    You dawg — way to go!

  16. Kevin J. April 30, 2009 at 5:35 pm #

    Happy birthday to Maryl and happy anniversary of sorts to the both of you; you guys make a great couple/family.

  17. Michele J April 30, 2009 at 8:55 pm #

    That is a beautiful story,I think the world of you both and dont get to see you guys much but you are both very dear friends Im blessed to know..hope you had a wonderful anniversary.

  18. KevinP May 4, 2009 at 11:50 pm #

    Aww, I’m a sucker for stories like this…

    Happy Anniversary!

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