When Kitty Met Ed

11 Feb

I’m a day late to posting this, but PinkBflo writes about an act of civil disobedience-ish behavior that took place in Buffalo:

local LGBT activist Kitty Lambert received a marriage license to a stranger named Ed at Buffalo’s City Hall today, after being denied a license to marry her same-sex partner.

A small group gathered in the lobby before proceeding to the 13th floor. Entering the City Clerk’s office, Kitty and long-time partner Cheryl attempted to apply for a marriage license. Armed with the appropriate documents City employees informed them due to New York State law, they would be unable to grant them a license. As the clerk’s office employees gathered to watch, a tearful Lambert explained the benefits only available to straight couples with a marriage license.

With news cameras rolling, Kitty then turned to the crowd and asked for any male who would be willing to get married to her. A gay man named Ed stepped forward and volunteered. They briefly exchanged information and presented the appropriate documents along with $40. City staff verified the information, and proceeded to give them a marriage license.

Our society is so backwards on this that our government has no problem in granting a marriage license literally to two complete strangers who met a moment before, but will not  grant a similar license to a committed same-sex couple.  A complete sham marriage between a gay woman and gay man is perfectly legal, but Kitty and Cheryl are second-class citizens.

This is heart-rending and infuriating:


Wouldn’t it be great if people like Bill Stachowski and Ruben Diaz and Dale Volker and George Maziarz were forced to explain to Kitty and Cheryl why they are not treated the same as any other New York resident?


8 Responses to “When Kitty Met Ed”

  1. Ethan February 12, 2010 at 10:16 am #

    I know whats “right,” but do the people those reps represent actually want them to vote “yes” on gay marriage? Because while I know what’s right, I also think our legislators ought to, you know, actually represent _us_ and our interests, not their own personal interests- isn’t that something you, me, everyone is always complaining about? So, it strikes me as inconsistant to tell those guys to vote any other way than what the majority of their constituants would want them to, no?

    Which in turn suggests that “the problem” lies as much with The People as with their elected officials. Dale Volker might think you’re a dick, but I bet a bunch of his constituants do, too.

  2. jesse February 12, 2010 at 12:35 pm #

    Yeah, if you’re going to poll your constit’s every time, you might as well not have representatives and might as well just have a tyranny of the majority and get it over with.

    Oh wait… that’s kind of happening with this sad story.

  3. Chris M February 13, 2010 at 10:14 am #

    So if Kitty had shown up asking to marry TWO men simultaneously, both of whom she knew and loved, would that be OK with you? If not, why not?

    Seems like all the same moral and legal arguments apply.

    • Jon Splett February 13, 2010 at 11:23 am #

      All the same legal arguments don’t apply, for starters, splitting up property between 3 people in the event of a divorce isn’t the same as splitting it up for 2, but I have no problem with someone having multiple spouses. Other people’s marriages don’t have any impact on my life and I’ve got no business telling other people how to live and neither does the state.

    • Alan Bedenko February 13, 2010 at 12:20 pm #

      Why on earth would I care if someone was a polygamist? Some of our favorite Bible characters were polygamists.

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