Marriage Equality Coda

27 Jun

There were cheers and celebrations throughout the state – one of the most touching Tweets I saw on Friday night was from a man in New York City who simply wrote, “he said yes”.

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I let those three simple words sink in, and thought how Earth-shattering this all is. It was, after all, a mere decade ago when then-Governor Howard Dean of Vermont was thrust into the national spotlight when that state made history by legalizing civil unions. Vermont made history then, and was the first state to legislatively legalize same-sex marriage in 2009. In just ten years we’ve gone a long way towards what happened Friday here in New York.

What’s fantastic is that every single wedding-related business in the state is looking at a bump in bookings thanks to an entire new class of person who is now entitled to have one. Not to mention the $40 fee for a marriage license that local clerks charge for marriage licenses – that’s another revenue windfall.

The reaction from people I follow on Twitter and Facebook has been overwhelmingly positive, which means I’m largely following and friends with the right kind of people. I had to go hunting to find some negativity. One local hate-filled website went on and on about what the Bishop thinks about all this, accusing Mark Grisanti of selling out in exchange for a vote on SUNY 2020. It’s an explosive diarrhea of ignorant hatred and moralization from the immoral.

I saw a local Republican former-blogger Tweet some concern-trolls about how it’s a shame that the legislature wasn’t paying attention to real problems like taxation. Funny thing about that? The “Big Ugly” bill that passed earlier addressing property tax caps and mandate relief.  Albany just had its most productive legislative session in God knows how long, implementing loads of real reforms – people who don’t know that aren’t paying attention.

I saw a Paladino confidante express despair for this “God-forsaken” state. Presumably, he and his wife remain married despite teh geys being able to do the same, and his traditional marriage stands unmolested by last week’s legislation.

I heard an ignorant Christianist moralizer on the local wingnut station defame homosexuals all afternoon on Saturday. It helped make clearer the fact that “love the sinner, hate the sin” really means “hate the sinner”. Did you know that same-sex marriage’s passage now means that idiot Christianists like her won’t be able to defame and bash gay people anymore? Why, it’s a God-given right for her to bear arms and hate the homos.

On Sunday night, I Tweeted something snarky about how passage of same-sex marriage must make for awkwardness between noted angry fan of “traditional marriage” Carl Paladino and his nephew, Jeffrey Hannon. Hannon replied to me, culminating in an apology from him for insulting me back during the gubernatorial campaign. I never thought I’d see the day, and I accepted it with best wishes and congratulations to him for his newly acquired full citizenship status.

But turning back to Dummy / Hatey from Williamsville, I tried to get some people to call in en masse on Saturday to set this cretin straight, but‘s Kristen Becker had a reply that was short, terse, accurate and opened my eyes further to the reality of what happened on Friday:

I can’t even muster the energy. Mainly because I don’t have to anymore, I’m protected by my state.

Kristen and the love of her life, Stacey, are planning their wedding right now. I’m tremendously happy for them.

Have a great week, everyone. I’m so proud of my state for what it did on Friday. It hopefully made it ok for other states to do the same. Don’t let the haters get to you.

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7 Responses to “Marriage Equality Coda”

  1. Jesse June 27, 2011 at 7:20 am #

    I have some sympathy for the anti’s simply because of the speed with which public opinion turned on this… and really, the speed that the political climate shifted is amazing.

    People seem to be wired in two ways, either accepting or hating change, and you have to admit this is a pretty big change.

    Give ’em another decade or two and, as absolutely nothing biblical happens, the haters will melt away.  In the meantime, ignore ’em, they lost.

  2. k becker June 27, 2011 at 8:04 am #

    I was also REALLY hungover 🙂 yay gay!

  3. Fat Tony June 27, 2011 at 8:06 am #

    Over the weekend it dawned on me: progressive voters in Mark Grisanti’s district should register en masse as Conservatives before THIS year’s elections. That means their party affiliation switches after January 1st. So, when hypocrites Mike Long and Ralph Lorigo try to punish Grisanti in the 2012 elections, Grisanti can win the Conservative line on a write-in fueled by all the progressives who switched over. I bet it wouldn’t take more than a few hundred votes to accomplish this and what better way to send a collective middle finger to the Conservatives than stealing their line for the swing vote on marriage?

    BP, you need to start this movement.

  4. Andrew Kulyk June 27, 2011 at 8:10 am #

    Fat Tony’s idea…. WIN

  5. Brian Wood June 27, 2011 at 10:02 am #

    I never have any sympathy for anyone who opposes equal civil rights for all. You don’t like it? Either prevail at the polling place or STFU. That’s what Mrka is about, AND the constitution even makes a victory in the polls subject to law–the majority cannot tyrannize.

  6. kbecker June 27, 2011 at 10:23 am #

    I’m excited or five years from now. last summer Stacey and I were in mass, and when we said we were engaged, it didn’t get weird. or awkward, or anything like that. THAT was when we realized that this would make a difference. In a few years, this will be nothing and that feels great!

  7. Keller June 27, 2011 at 12:01 pm #

    One item of fine print that is being overlooked. Mustache rides will now be taxed $.05 per.

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